what a great piece! looking forward to learning more in the next data dispatch.
I can see the way having a “big girl job” has impacted my social life. From having a more rigid schedule (albeit one that’s similar to many of my friends) to not having time to socialize on weekdays while also making time for hobbies, cooking, exercising, etc., it’s hard to build the social connection I want.
standing (with friends) is the new quitting smoking!
Thanks! I've had the same experience. How are you tackling the problem? I find that just as with physical health habits (standing desk, working out, diet etc.), being more sociable is all about building it into everyday life, until it's not even a conscious decision anymore. I try to regularly meet people for shared meals, sports, hobbies, and so on (but with mixed success)
I've been doing a similar thing in building a social habit. It feels weird to call seeing my friends a habit, but I've found that having a weekly routine with my friends helps me take away some of the mental burdens of making plans. For instance, I host regular parties and game nights (a great chance to see all my friends at once), and have reoccurring plans like weekly bar trivia and monthly book club meetings that help make my default state of being more socially enriched.
Do you have any writer friends that you meet up with? I've been working on building a writing group with some people in NYC, but it's always tough to get things like that started
Hey Madeleine, did you ever get that writing group up and running? I recently found a group here in DC, we get together about once a month and organize occasional talks. But we could also experiment with an online group if you're interested--I could definitely use the accountability.
what a great piece! looking forward to learning more in the next data dispatch.
I can see the way having a “big girl job” has impacted my social life. From having a more rigid schedule (albeit one that’s similar to many of my friends) to not having time to socialize on weekdays while also making time for hobbies, cooking, exercising, etc., it’s hard to build the social connection I want.
standing (with friends) is the new quitting smoking!
Thanks! I've had the same experience. How are you tackling the problem? I find that just as with physical health habits (standing desk, working out, diet etc.), being more sociable is all about building it into everyday life, until it's not even a conscious decision anymore. I try to regularly meet people for shared meals, sports, hobbies, and so on (but with mixed success)
I've been doing a similar thing in building a social habit. It feels weird to call seeing my friends a habit, but I've found that having a weekly routine with my friends helps me take away some of the mental burdens of making plans. For instance, I host regular parties and game nights (a great chance to see all my friends at once), and have reoccurring plans like weekly bar trivia and monthly book club meetings that help make my default state of being more socially enriched.
Do you have any writer friends that you meet up with? I've been working on building a writing group with some people in NYC, but it's always tough to get things like that started
Hey Madeleine, did you ever get that writing group up and running? I recently found a group here in DC, we get together about once a month and organize occasional talks. But we could also experiment with an online group if you're interested--I could definitely use the accountability.